When we experience a loss that is overwhelming, such as a death, the unwanted end of a relationship, a career “curve ball,” serious heal problems, whatever causes you grief, we find ourselves at a loss, we do not know what to do or which direction we are going. We find that we just cannot focus or take our minds off our difficult life situation. We want to run away from the pain. That certainly is normal. But after trying to deny the reality, we face it. When this happens, despite the anxiety, it is important to nurture yourself. Nurturing ourselves requires effort and balance. We need rest and plenty of it and it is important to eat meals regularly. In addition to rest, we need exercise and moderate social interaction During this time, our bodies use more energy, so food is important. Pay attention to what you need, talk to friends or a professional. As noted, Grief Recovery Specialist John W. James has said, try to avoid your go to (STERBs), short term energy behaviors, such as substance abuse, “Shop Therapy,” or any other temporary pain relievers that do not help. 

Here is a short, simple video that provides wise information in a very concise way. It’s definitely worth looking at.